So I was chatting with a friend of mine yesterday, and he was telling me that I didn’t fit the ‘Ghana girl’ stereotype at all. This led to a very stimulating conversation about the ‘Ghana girl’ stereotype, and had me thinking about different situations and different conversations I had had with other friends concerning the same issue.
- I remember last Christmas when I went home I visited a friend, and we were doing some catching up. I remember I said something about ‘moving’ this dude in school, and how I really didn’t find that incident amusing at all. By the way the term ‘moving’ refers to anything from grinding on the dance floor to making out, head, whatever, however it does not involve actually having sex with the person (I really dunno who coined the term, but a lot of people use it). Anyway, where was I .. oh yes, as I was saying, I said ‘Yeah, so I moved him’, and my friend goes like ‘YOU moved HIM’? and laughs like I was cracking jokes or something. I go like ‘Okay fine, we moved each other.’ And he goes like ‘haha, that’s still funny’. I guess he expected me to say ‘HE moved ME’, which I think is ridiculous, considering the fact that he did all the giving. LOL. Yup, that’s the typical Ghanaian male mentality. Pretty jacked up, if you ask me.
Even worse…Why was I guilt ridden because I had made out with some dude, one would think that I didn’t enjoy it, but I was utterly disgusted by my behavior. If I were a guy, would I have felt the same way? I’ll leave that for you to answer.
- One day my friend was telling me a story about a girl whose boyfriend was always cheating on her, so she had also started cheating on him, and she said ‘One thinks he/she is fooling the other. They don’t know they are fooling each other!’. For one thing I thought that was kinda funny, and a little dysfunctional actually, but that’s just me. I replied ‘ Ei, I’m feeling her. That’s the spirit! I don’t have the heart to that, but kudos to her!’. My friend looked at me like I was mad. Really, who are you to judge or call a fellow female names because she has decided to do unto her boyfriend what he does unto her? My friend concentrate on the log in your eye!
I keep hearing so many relationship stories and it seems everybody’s man is out of order. LOL. Yet men are so quick to judge other girls who do the same things they do. They are the first to call someone a slut (oh by the way, if they got that slut they would not hesitate to stick it, excuse my French).
Personally I think women are getting the shorter end of the stick, but most of us will do nothing about it because, what?...’its not our thing’ or ‘God doesn’t like that’. So yes, if anyone tells me another story about a ‘slut’ I will say kudos to her! However, how long can one do such things, considering the kind of culture we have in Ghana? Street Credibility à down the drain!!
But men, if ‘Rosie the Riveter’ was such a hit, why is ‘Hannah the Ho’ a problem? (I know why it is morally wrong, I just don’t see why y’all have a problem with it too J )
